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14 FEBRUARY, 2012

Vintage Valentine’s Day Postcards from the Early 1900s

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“If she be not fair for me what care I how fair she be.”

There are a million better ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day than with a card — perhaps by revisiting the very first kiss in cinema, smiling over artist Eero Saarinen’s endearing list of his wife’s positive attributes, exploring a love story in geometric diagrams, getting goosebumps from Virginia Woolf’s love letter to Vita Sackville-West, or even taking a sobering look at the psychology of love. But if cards must be your thing, they can at least come with the vintage charisma of the early 1900s, thanks to The New York Public Library’s digital gallery.

The era’s Valentine’s greetings come with a rather limited visual vocabulary — little girls, little boys, cupids, flowers, hearts.

There is also the occasional playful delight:

And what’s love without some indignant bitterness?

Then there’s gangsta Valentine:

And, of course, some classic anti-Suffragette mild misogyny:

But my heart belongs to this “wireless telegram” circa 1903:

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13 FEBRUARY, 2012

Elizabeth Gilbert on How Schopenhauer’s Porcupine Dilemma Reveals the Secret of Happiness

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On how to connect without getting pricked.

In January of 2010, PBS aired a fascinating series titled This Emotional Life, exploring cutting-edge insights from cognitive and behavioral science to explain some of the “why” behind a wide range of mental illness and mental health, from addiction to depression to resilience. The series featured a number of prominent authors, psychologists, clinicians, and other public figures, discussing the science and everyday grit of these complex issues.

Among them was Elizabeth Gilbert, author of the modern classic Eat, Pray, Love and mastermind behind one of the all-time greatest TED talks. Gilbert relays the porcupine dilemma made famous by German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer — a beautiful metaphor for how we choose to go through the world and relate to others, in a quest to master the intricate balance of the guardedness necessary for self-protection and the vulnerability necessary for the warmth of true intimacy.

For a deeper dive, see Deborah Luepnitz’s Schopenhauer’s Porcupines: Intimacy and Its Dilemmas.

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08 FEBRUARY, 2012

How To Be Emotionally Stable: A Cosmic Melody

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“…and realize that everything is connected to everything else…”

Inspired by Nick Cox’s wonderful Thought Catalog piece on love’s all too familiar cycle of despair and hope, my friend Max Lugavere (remember him?) strummed up and narrated a simple melody to a breathtakingly beautiful effect. Stay with it.

I’ll be starting my mornings with this for a while.

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30 JANUARY, 2012

Charles Bukowski on What Love Is

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Once again, Bukowski captures a great truth and tragedy of the human condition:

Love is kind of like when you see a fog in the morning, when you wake up before the sun comes out. It’s just a little while, and then it burns away… Love is a fog that burns with the first daylight of reality.”

More in Bukowski’s Love is a Dog From Hell — because, some days, poetry just holds so much more truth about love than does science.

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